Let’s face it, going through a divorce is hard. Emotions and tensions run high. But even the most together person can have moments when life seems like a chaotic mess. Couple that with the instant access of your “friends” on social media and you have a recipe for divorce court disaster. As tempting as it may be, try to avoid the following pitfalls:
1. Bashing your spouse.
Divorce is a time to gather your “buddies” or your “squad” around you, I get it. Just keep it off social media. The ending of a marriage affects more than just the husband and wife. Using social media to tear down your spouse can be hurtful to your mutual family, friends, and any children you and your spouse share. Your postings should never put anyone in a position where they must “take sides.” It is best to avoid posting at all about your spouse on social media, but if you just can’t resist, avoid further drama and take the high road.
2. Logging into your spouse’s social media accounts.
Even if your spouse had given you access during the marriage, don’t use his/her password to access their personal social media accounts. While a brief glimpse of your spouse’s Instagram could reveal something that would help your divorce case, this is murky territory that could potentially get you in lots of trouble legally. Leave the investigating to your attorney and focus your energy on moving forward into your best life.
3. Creating a dating profile.
Just don’t do this. Really, just don’t.
Sharing every detail of your divorce can be tempting when you are looking for some sympathy, but it is never a good idea. Airing dirty laundry, disclosing things your attorney has told you, or sharing how emotionally distraught you are could be used against you in a divorce proceeding. During your divorce, be discreet with your postings and assume that everything you put out there could be put in front of a judge. If you don’t want a judge to read it, don’t post it.
5. Incriminating yourself.
Oversharing on social media can lead to incriminating evidence that an opposing attorney would be happy to produce in court. Think twice before posting those wild and crazy bar hopping photos if you are going through a custody dispute. Don’t post pictures of the expensive trips you are taking with your new girlfriend/boyfriend if your court filings say that you have limited income. Don’t assume that just because you blocked your spouse from your social media accounts, he/she won’t be able to see or access your postings. Assume everything you do online can be found, because it can.
After reading the tips above, you may discover that you have overshared or have posted something that would incriminate yourself. So, now what? You may be tempted to just erase all your social media history and start over. Not only does doing this make you look like you are hiding something, you could potentially be destroying evidence. Instead of erasing everything, re-evaluate your “friend” list, update your privacy settings, and follow the tips listed above going forward.
If you need additional advice with any aspect of a divorce, call the experienced attorneys at Weaver, Bennett and Bland for guidance.